Sexual or erotic fantasy is a deliberate pattern of ideas (a recreation or mental representation). The goal is to create or improve sexual feelings. They are based on mental images that an individual considers erotic.
Who has not been excited ever imagining scenes, images, potentially erotic situations but whose permissiveness can be morally and socially questioned?
They are images related to the erotic of the senses, with the forbidden. We would not confess them most of the time and they have a highly exciting component.
The fantasies can be used within the erotic partner to achieve a greater degree of arousal during sex.
False Myths about sexual fantasy
It is quite frequent even today, and much more among the female sector, to feel shame or guilt for having sexual fantasies . There are even those who still think that having sexual fantasies is committing infidelity. It is also common to think that if our partner develops sexual fantasies , it is because we do not promote their sexual desire well.
In turn, not because of the elaboration of sexual fantasies , it means that we are dissatisfied with our sexuality. It is not a cause-consequence. In fact, sexual fantasies are an aspect that works within sexual therapy to promote sexual health, especially in those cases in which there is low sexual desire .
These sexual thoughts manifest internal desires, although it is also common to have fantasies that you do not want to really carry out. The fact that these fantasies are in our imagination, may mean that if they were put into practice they could lose the stimulating effect they had. In real life, sexual fantasy could be something very difficult to achieve or perhaps even impossible to achieve. In fact, some may find that their fantasies are unacceptable according to their criteria, if they are embodied in real life.
The most powerful sexual organ is our brain.
The forms and purposes of a sexual fantasy can range from long mental accounts to rapid flashes of sexual images.
Its effects range from simple sexual arousal to orgasm. Each person has their sexual fantasy, therefore there are many and very diverse. However many men agree that some of their sexual fantasies tend to focus on control of the situation and sexual ability.
The most frequent are:
- Practice sex with a partner other than your own.
- Have relationships within a group (orgy).
- Have sex with other men. (Homosexuality)
- Have sex with previous partners.
- Make love in a different place than usual.
Many feminine sexual fantasies are similar to masculine ones, although they are characterized by being of greater duration and usually focus on sentimental relationships. The most frequent are:
- Imagine having sex with another man than your regular partner.
- Think that you are being raped, either with one man or more than one.
- Have sex with other women. (Lesbianism)
- Recall other sexual experiences held in the past.
- Maintain a relationship that includes violent scenes such as sadism or masochism, being the one that dominates a submissive man who consents and satisfies or is the one who must obey and satisfy the desires of another dominant person.
Improve the quality of your sexual relations
The attitude that we maintain about different sexual practices, among which we could include sexual fantasies , is the key to their success. On the contrary, from the repression of prejudices and complexes, we tend to limit our sexuality and pleasure. You can improve the quality of your relationships through sexual fantasies.